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Wonderful TED Talk

You are going to love this wonderful TED Talk I discovered when I clicked on a blogger who had “liked” my last post. I found an article about Aimee Mullins who was born without fibular bones in her legs. She has inspired many and I love the way she redefines the term “disability” in her presentation, titled “Opportunity of Adversity” (20 minutes in length). Aimee is truly a potential inspiration to everyone on the planet. She has enlightened me in so many ways.

One issue I reflected on after watching Mullins’ talk was the fact that her “adversity” is one that is fairly obvious–the lower part of both legs were amputated. She uses prostheses and if she’s wearing a long skirt or pants, you wouldn’t know. But say during the summer when she’s wearing shorts, I’m sure she gets lots of questions and looks. I do not have a disability; I have a scar and PTSD from a surgical procedure that brought trauma into my life as an infant. I have a more “hidden” issue, in a sense. Giving my “adversity” credibility has always been a challenge: You were too young to remember. You didn’t feel a thing. You were perfectly fine after your incision healed. Babies don’t feel pain. Mom and Dad and your brother are the ones who suffered.  There is such pressure to be normal.

Inside, I felt very different from others–special because I rebounded from the brink of death but damaged because I had that ugly scar. Do I wish I had had a more obvious, less hidden challenge to work with?  Not at all. Each of us in this life has his or her particular limitations to work with. Those who share this journey of transformation with others give strength to everyone to continue learning and growing from difficult circumstances. That’s why Aimee Mullins is so awesome. She helps us embrace the “opportunity in [every] adversity.”

0 Responses to Wonderful TED Talk

  1. Yesterday I met somebody like Aimee, with very ugly scars from life-saving surgery for melanoma, something that would have been hard to hide on a hot summer’s day. How true that people like Aimee and Jess are signposts and an inspiration to me. Like you, Wendy, I struggled for many years because of an ugly scar that marked my survival, but that was surrounded by mystery and embarrassment with which my parents did not help me. Because i could hide my scar most of the time, only certain situations brought my deep trauma and ptsd to the surface. But it was always there. Because of the surgery or the maternal deprivation that came with it? Because of my parents’ failure to help me? Because of my introspective and sensitive character? Perhaps all of the above? But I am so glad that people like Aimee and Jess have helped me greatly to realise that I am not alone and that I can choose to live happily with bad scars and even disability.

  2. Yesterday I met somebody like Aimee, with very ugly scars from life-saving surgery for melanoma, something that would have been hard to hide on a hot summer’s day. How true that people like Aimee and Jess are signposts and an inspiration to me. Like you, Wendy, I struggled for many years because of an ugly scar that marked my survival, but that was surrounded by mystery and embarrassment with which my parents did not help me. Because i could hide my scar most of the time, only certain situations brought my deep trauma and ptsd to the surface. But it was always there. Because of the surgery or the maternal deprivation that came with it? Because of my parents’ failure to help me? Because of my introspective and sensitive character? Perhaps all of the above? But I am so glad that people like Aimee and Jess have helped me greatly to realise that I am not alone and that I can choose to live happily with bad scars and even disability.

  3. I’m starting to feel a little better about my scar. In the video, Aimee says that if some miracle could happen and she could be given healthy legs today, she isn’t so sure she’d take them since all she’s become is because of what happened to her. I am starting to feel that way about ps. Knowing you has been one of the greatest gifts of having had ps. And yes, people like you and Aimee have helped me know I am not alone.

  4. I’m starting to feel a little better about my scar. In the video, Aimee says that if some miracle could happen and she could be given healthy legs today, she isn’t so sure she’d take them since all she’s become is because of what happened to her. I am starting to feel that way about ps. Knowing you has been one of the greatest gifts of having had ps. And yes, people like you and Aimee have helped me know I am not alone.

  5. I’ve seen people with very little in the way of ligatures piss and moan their way through life. I’ve also seen people with tremendous physical, mental and psychological challenges meet those challenges with courage and grace every day. There are different ways to approach our hurdles, and to some extent we have a choice. Being aware of our situation and open to new ways of thinking about it can help us to make a positive choice.

  6. I’ve seen people with very little in the way of ligatures piss and moan their way through life. I’ve also seen people with tremendous physical, mental and psychological challenges meet those challenges with courage and grace every day. There are different ways to approach our hurdles, and to some extent we have a choice. Being aware of our situation and open to new ways of thinking about it can help us to make a positive choice.

  7. this is why every time I see a person with physical disability I close my eyes and thank God that I was born with all my body parts working just fine.

  8. this is why every time I see a person with physical disability I close my eyes and thank God that I was born with all my body parts working just fine.

  9. After i read the blog i started think of this book i read in high school my senior year. The name of the book is called “samarai’s garden”. Its about a girl who has leprosy as a child, and i can link the book to the blog in so many ways. It truely takes courage for people with these conditions to stay strong, because the condition can alter behavorism.

  10. After i read the blog i started think of this book i read in high school my senior year. The name of the book is called “samarai’s garden”. Its about a girl who has leprosy as a child, and i can link the book to the blog in so many ways. It truely takes courage for people with these conditions to stay strong, because the condition can alter behavorism.

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